Grace Upon Grace: How God Redeemed It All

by Alyssa

Here’s the ugly truth:

I hated myself.

And I wish I could tell you that hatred only lasted a few days, weeks, or even months. But you see, that hatred consumed years of my life. And it was ugly and exhausting.

And here’s what’s even worse: I knew better.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139: 13-14

“You knit me together.” And I knew that. You see, I knew I had been fearfully and wonderfully created by God. And I knew that by hating myself I was essentially telling him that I hated his Creation (and believe me, that made me feel even worse).

So then, why did I hate myself?

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Why I’m GLAD I Gained 10 Pounds

by Tiffany Dawn

Happy Tuesday Girl Talk, friends!

For too many years, I allowed numbers to dictate my self-worth — the numbers on my scale and on my jeans. The idea of gaining weight sounded like the worst thing that could happen.

And then…just recently…I gained 10 pounds.

At first it was super weird! I didn’t like it at all. But now…I’m actually GLAD I did.

So today, in this video, I share why I’m glad I gained ten pounds, along with a pep talk for swim suit season.

I hope my story can encourage you all!! Much love!! ❤️

The women who have changed my life

The women who have changed my life — and how you can change someone else’s life too.

by Julia Robison

I’m gonna set the stage for you: Imagine 8th grade Julia.

(Oh gosh, had to go deep in the Facebook archives for this photo… you are welcome.)

So this 8th grader is at a church retreat and she “falls in love” with one of the church staff. (No, this is not real love, but to an 8th grader this is a HUGE DEAL.) She finds out that this leader has a very serious girlfriend…and SHE IS CRUSHED.

Another leader on the trip — a sophmore in high school — comes and listens to her, sits with her as she cries, and then makes her laugh when she thinks she will never laugh again.

That started much more than a friendship; it also sparked a love for getting to know women who are a few steps ahead of me in life.

Role Models and Mentors are some of the greatest gifts that God has placed on the earth — although, granted a very different type of gift than donuts or coffee.

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#RealTalk – I Also Hate Scales

by Amanda Mercer

Before I write this post, I would like to clarify a few things:

1. This post is meant to be an encouragement and inspiration, it is NOT to toot my own horn.

2. I’m not bashing weekly weigh-ins or denying that a scale can be a good tool.

3. I’m not looking for a million compliments or haters.

Ok… now that you have some guidelines…

Sometimes I think that people believe that trainers are above the daily fitness and self-image struggles that seem to plague the rest of the world.

My trainer never wants/eats/craves junk food. FALSE. 

My trainer never gets tired. ABSOLUTELY FALSE. 

My trainer must love his or her body all the time. A COMPLETE LIE.

Show me a trainer who has never once struggled with body image and I will gladly invest in some training sessions with them. I could use that kind of mental resiliency.

But the truth is we struggle. We doubt. We criticize ourselves. We roll our eyes. We sigh. We avoid mirrors. We obsess about the scale.

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Making Head Knowledge Heart Knowledge

by Kimmie Plummer

I have to admit, this was a hard blog post for me to write because this is something I struggle with ALL.THE.TIME. I rewrote my words too many times, hoping that I could eloquently convey my message. Instead, I am afraid this will be raw, rough, and entirely too honest.

For as long as I can remember, I have been an over-analyzer. I have to think things through over and over and over again, hoping to glean just a bit more information.

It’s like, I know in my head that I’m a daughter of God, but my heart keeps asking:

I know that I am at a healthy weight, but why don’t I fit into size 2 jeans?

I feel pretty today, but why don’t I look like her?

I am a good person, but why don’t I like myself today?

I am trying so hard, but why is it never enough? 

I know I am strong, so why do I let others tear me down?

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Do you like you?

by Tiffany Dawn

Do you like you?

My husband asked me that question the other day, and I had to stop and think. Well…do I?

This is a journey I’ve been on for much of my life. I finally did like myself when I was single, but getting married added a whole new element and I’ve had to relearn old lessons. (Learn more about that here.)

This 3-minute video lets you into my own personal journey to figure out how to like the person God made me to be — so I can love other people better and better.

Please do leave your thoughts in the comment box so we can learn from each other. Hope you enjoy!

<3, Tiffany Dawn

 

Our Christmas Giveaway!

I know, I know…it’s not even Thanksgiving yet! But I HAVE to tell you about our Christmas giveaway!

The gift: A signed & personalized copy of either “The Insatiable Quest for Beauty” or “Boycrazy: And how I ended up single and mostly sane” — from me to you!

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How to enter: Simply email a question you’d like me to answer on my YouTube channel to tiffanydawn@tiffanydawn.net by December 5.

When could you win? Two winners will be picked at random and announced on my Christmas DIY YouTube video on December 6th!

Please feel free to share this with your friends! I can’t wait to hear your questions!! 😍

(Want to share some of your favorite DIY Christmas décor and gifts IN the December 6th video?? We’d love to have you involved! Just email tiffanydawn@tiffanydawn.net to find out how!)

This week’s mind-blowing gift

Oh my word. Friends.

This week, a new, gorgeous, amazing promo video was gifted to me & “The Insatiable Quest for Beauty” ministry.

This video shares a little bit of my story, and what “The Insatiable Quest for Beauty” ministry is all about.

I. Am. In. Love!!

About Town Films expertly created this 4.5-minute video from about 4 hours of film time shot here in my apartment a few weeks ago. Light the City Network extravagantly sponsored this production, so it could be a gift to this ministry. And a wonderful new friend of mine, Madi, came and shared part of her story in the film, blowing me away.

I am almost beyond words, completely blessed and feeling so, so spoiled and like I could dance and revel in God’s goodness, in this gift.

I just have to share the video with you, because, I absolutely LOVE IT. I hope you enjoy it as well. 🙂

Love, Tiffany

Awesome, free resource collection!

Hi friends!

For any of you who are young women, or who know young women — this is for you and for them!

Please feel free to pass along these links so your friends and daughters can access these free resource collections. They’re especially created for Christian girls ages 12-23 — although they can certainly be encouraging to others as well.

I’m SO EXCITED about these — let me tell you why!

First, Body Image Resource Page:

Girls often ask how I worked through my struggles with body image and disordered eating. Well, they now have a WHOLE WEBPAGE of resources — let alone my book!

Here I’ve developed a page of tips, advice, and resources for struggles with body image and eating disorders here — including how to help a friend through these things. A lot of them are videos I’ve made, or other people have made.

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Second, Relationship Advice Page:

I also get lots of emails and questions about relationships. How do you enjoy being single? How do you know if a guy is a good person to date? So…here you are!

This is a whole page of tips, advice, and resources on dating relationships, friendship, saving sex for marriage, singleness, and more!

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Lastly, Main Resource Page:

This page focuses on the most important thing of all: how to grow a relationship with God. It has tips for Bible study, practical ways to refocus your mind on the Lord, and more.

This page also talks about other struggles like anxiety.

Again, please feel free to share this information with anyone you think would benefit from it!

I’m trying to make these pages super helpful, relevant, and accessible to teen and college-age girls…and I would love your help getting the word out! 

I hope these resource pages greatly encourage you and those you love!

Love, Tiffany Dawn

My Insecurity Onion: Why I’m thankful for insecurity

I’m planted here in a rose-colored diner, bordering NJ and PA. My husband is off at a business meeting, so I’m sipping tea, eating hash browns, digging into a Beth Moore Bible study, and thinking about insecurity.

Insecurity has been like an onion in my life.

It comes with layer after eye-stinging layer…and keeps coming.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve battled insecurity. For years it was insecurity over how I looked — and sometimes it still is. After spending several years fighting toward freedom from the long-term effects of this insecurity — an eating disorder, unhealthy relationship, and so much more — I could finally breathe again…

and I thought insecurity was a thing of the past.

It was like I was dancing on a plateau and only looking down at how far I’d come, which was pretty striking:

  • no more guilt-ridden binges…
  • or obsessive calorie counting…
  • or ten times a day scale-stepping…

But I didn’t see how much farther I had to go.

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