Friends, today I want to introduce you to my friend Ashley. She wrote this several years ago for one of my older blogs, and I wanted to move it over to this blog, because it’s inspiring! I hope you enjoy! 🙂
Beauty Alzheimer’s Disease: I think I have this
by Ashley Tiefel
Inspired by an Instagram photo that I call “What I REALLY look like at night” posted by Bekah Nowak and the recent publication of my friend Tiffany Dawn’s book called, “Insatiable Quest for Beauty.”
GENERAL: You forget what you look like or get agitated knowing what you look like so you need photos to remind yourself or prove to yourself how good you look.
PRESENTATION: You take repetitive photos of JUST YOURSELF.
Nothing has changed, maybe the angle of your face. You haven’t sported a new haircut, or fancy makeover, or cake all over your face from an incredible food fight. A photo that just simply says, “hey, look at me I’m pretty, aren’t I.” Now, is that supposed to be a statement or a question?
In summary: please click “like” if you think I’m pretty.
Q: Aren’t we just voluntarily playing that game the Facebook founder was guilty of in his movie, Facebook, called Facemash? Or another called: Hot or Not?
Let me explain this further…
If no one “likes” my photo, then I am not pretty. If 27 people “like” my photo, I must be pretty.
ATTENTION USERS: Don’t “like” these types of pictures I post unless something really funny or interesting has changed about my face, because I’m going to forget what I look like in a day or two and post another one, similar to the first.
3 pictures of me looking…exactly the same
Facebook should include a disclaimer such as: “Not responsible for the false advertisement or conditions that may result from using this online social media.”
TRUTH: Sometimes, when the disease was at its worse I would have to look through my profile pictures just to REASSURE MYSELF that my pictures are IN FACT beautiful enough.
Am I enough?
If you can relate to this kind of Facebook activity, then this is for you!
God made us perfect in His image…so why don’t I feel beautiful?
Answer: You have lost sight of who you are in Christ, whom you belong to. You are more easily swayed by the opinions of the world rather than the promises and sweet voice of your Father in Heaven.
If Jesus Christ is your savior, then you need to read this…no matter where you are with your walk with God.
TEMPTATION GAME PLAN:
1) Don’t feed the insecurities! SAY NO! LITERALLY!
2) Read the WORD! I included scriptures for you to read at the end!
3) Talk with God; pretend you are using your cellphone if you must.
4) Get to know your enemy to prevent the enemy’s game plan, because he certainly knows you. The more we are aware of our flesh, the better we can be at protecting our heart and soul.
When you feel tempted, remember God’s promises. Take a step back, BE STILL, and remember that you are A CHILD OF GOD, NOT of the world. Keep a fresh perspective. God’s renewal and grace is NEW everyday. Your external beauty fades, but the spirit inside of you, that God gave you, is eternal. Focus on your REAL treasure, glorifying God and eternal life in HEAVEN!
While there might not be a CURE, we can certainly manage the symptoms and further spread.
NOTE: This is *not* supposed to say don’t wear makeup, or don’t buy clothing that makes you feel good, or don’t take fun pictures of you and your friends doing ridiculous things. The social media that we have today is such an awesome tool! Social media gives us an opportunity to do kingdom work, inspire others, to make people laugh, share feelings, and show YOUR JOURNEY! I feel grateful that my future children will have the opportunity to witness my life and growth as an individual through pictures and funny videos.
KEY POINT: Be conscious of why you are doing what you are doing.
YOU ARE ENOUGH!
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
YOU ARE WONDERFULLY MADE!
GOD LOVES YOU!!!
Psalm 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
– The fact is that until you know in your heart that God really does love and care for you, it’s going to be difficult to believe His promises for you… they just won’t make much sense!
God Can. God will.
Believe in Me; believe in My love for you.
1 Samuel 16:7 “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
– Do you put more time and effort into looking pretty on the outside or the inside?
Be drop-dead gorgeous on the inside!
Proverbs 31:3 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
– Beauty fades. Wrinkles happen. God calls us to “fear” Him. That is not to be afraid of Him, but be in awe of everything He has made.
1 Timothy 4:8 “Physical exercise has some value, but spiritual exercise is much more important, for it promises a reward in both this life and the next.”
– Yes, take care of your body. Don’t just let it go. This is the temple God gave you. Protect it. Nurture it. Have energy! Feel good! But what are you exercising more? –> Your physical appearance or your spiritual?
2 Corinthians 4:18 “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
Luke 12:28-31 “And if God cares so wonderfully for flowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith? And don’t be concerned about what to eat and what to drink. Don’t worry about such things. These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers all over the world, but your Father already knows your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.”
END-NOTE: It was not my intention to make light of this serious situation. I hope in the process it did not offend anyone. IT WAS MY INTENTION and HOPE that a woman will learn something about themselves and their walk with God through my experiences. I know I am not alone. God challenged me today; to reveal a part of me that I have been struggling with for many years. It takes many forms throughout our lives, but the root is always the same. The more we are honest with ourselves, the more we can declare protection and victory over our lives. By God’s grace and His Son, I am free.