“Think of rejection as God’s direction,” my friend Austin once told me.
I had just gotten off the phone with my summer boyfriend. I knew it wouldn’t last long, now that he was 20 hours away at school, but I hadn’t expected him to end it this quickly!
I had called Austin in a rage, and he had the nerve to LAUGH!
“Tiff, if I had to pick out of every girl in the world who I’d marry, I could never make the choice,” Austin explained. “When I know she’s not the one, that’s great. When she knows I’m not the one, I just see it as God narrowing down my options, leading me where He wants me to go. Her rejection is really just God’s direction.”
I just see it as God narrowing down my options. The rejection is really just God’s direction.
We all know that break ups are THE WORST. But when you’re on the receiving end, it’s easy to start wondering what’s wrong with you.
If you’re anything like me, it doesn’t even a take a break up. I’ve felt the sting of rejection time and again when guy after guy that I liked, didn’t like me back, moved on and chose another girl, sometimes even my friend. And I wondered why I wasn’t good enough for them.
But now I see it in a whole new light.
Nothing was wrong with me. It was simply God’s grace and guidance, that I prayed for constantly. I prayed for Him to direct me and protect me for the man He had for me — and that’s exactly what He was doing. Even when the guy didn’t pursue me.
I prayed for God to direct and protect me for the man He had for me — and that’s exactly what He was doing. Even when the guy didn’t pursue me.
Now, I’m so grateful.
I never imagined I’d thank God for allowing rejection in my life. But now that I see how absolutely incredible marriage already is with James (even just five months in), I cannot thank God enough for keeping me from those other guys! I wouldn’t have enjoyed marriage half as much with anyone else.